Breathe in focus, Hold, Think. Breathe out. Smile and say “Ahhhhh” or thank you.
THINKING ABOUT WHAT MATTERS
Children are the world’s most valuable resource and its best hope for the future.
John Fitzgerald Kennedy, 35th US President
The poor are often criticized for having so many children, but Kennedy touched on at least one reason why–Hope.
CRANKY OLD LADY RANT: Statistics show unless religion dictates otherwise, the more wealth the fewer children modern-day couples are likely to have. Living the good life probably means hope is less needed, and more help caring for the child. The more help explains why Angelina and Mia Farrow could start running their own orphanages in their own homes.
Elizabeth Stone notes, the decision to have a child is”… to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body.” Those that are truly 99% ers have little choice. Often religious beliefs justifies men forcing women into having unwanted children, keeps whole countries from denying safe an available contraceptive means, access to pre-natal care let alone abortion even when the expected child is one of rape or threatens the mothers physical life.
Reality check: Just because I am cranky and old does not mean what I post is stupid, worthless or false true.
Staying Strong Tips; Subject change and three reality checks from my Wise Old One’s store of Shrinks Think knowledge:
Reality check: Teens often commit suicide thinking they are going to be around in one or another better world watching those left in this world weeping and beating their chests in guilt that they did nothing to help the teen while s/he was on earth. Fact for suicidal teens: Probably not going to happen that way. Heaven and a better world is a hope, but all religions deny it to those who commit suicide. The tip: worry lots about teens who think or hint about the suicide option. Make sure they know “You hope a better world lies beyond–that is the stuff of faith–but a hope not a proven reality.”
Reality check: The “They will regret” what they have done and “I will see them and gloat” false belief fuels revenge scenarios of murder and suicide. Faith is a belief not based on proof. The tip: The above but with a reminder the best revenge is living a better life than offered by the ones you want to kill.
Reality check: The strongest indicator of suicidal intent is hopelessness. If you are living in pain and do not think that is ever going to change, death becomes more and more attractive. Emily Dickenson noted, “Hope is the thing with feathers, That perches in the soul, And sings the tune–without the words, And never stops at all.” Some hopes do stop. The tip: Worry about those who have been repeatedly trashed by life or others and worry most if they have little or no hope left. One sign of that is a vegetative state, not wanting to get out of bed, eat, drink or do what has to be done.
PRACTICE KINDNESS ; Give hope to children. Click here to see the work of Big Brothers and Big Sisters of Israel. Click here to support their work. The founder Libby Reichman was one of my first Columbia University School of Social Work students. She is an amazing woman, I am so proud to have been one of many honored to know her. Libby moved to Israel with Rabbi Steve Riskin in the early 70’s. She was all of 21 and had all ready graduated with her Master’s Degree from CUSW. She has raised four children and stayed strong in Israel.
Cranky Me does not trust many charities. This is one I can recommend in good faith and with no hesitation.
FUEL MY HOPES: Be kind to me, get kindness badges for you, and help others get and stay strong. Kindness is an Emotional Fitness Exercise. Click here for all 12 Daily Emotional Fitness Training Exercises.
IMAGE BY: David Levine