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News and views from the EFTI to strengthen everyone’s Emotional Intelligence (Emotional Fitness).

How to Speak So the Deaf Can Hear

A Cranky Old Deaf One’s blog post, inspired by this Word Press Daily Prompt Challenge If you could  be fluent in any language  which would it be?

Hearing aide joke Emotional Fitness Thoughts

I laughed, hope you did. Also hope you thought a bit more about what mattered.

The language I would like to acquire would be “Lip Reading.” Then I would know who were my real friends, who liked to make jokes about other people, and who just cared about themselves.

On the other hand, it might just better to be a bit deaf to what is said and so  judge others by actions and not words. The Word Nazi’s promote divisiveness as much as peace.

The language I would like others to learn is American Sign Language.  It is so easy to learn even babies can learn some basic signs before they can talk.

Reality check: As easy as it is for baby’s to learn, once they begin knowing how to talk, that becomes their preferred language. I taught my grands some basic signs, but they lost interest as soon as they could talk. What I am seeing is that the grand nearing kindergarten age is getting a bit re-invested in signing.

So this blog post’s Emotional Fitness Tip is really a wish. That all day care and elementary schools would include signing as part of their curriculum. It is as important a second language as any other and more universal. Moreover, it is best taught via songs and that boosts emotional intelligence and fitness as well.

Then it could become an elective in all upper grades.

Think about this: skilled signers have little difficulty finding jobs, either full time or part time.

PARENTING TIPS

Parenting tip one: Encourage all to teach signing to children and reinforce it. 

Parenting tip two:  Of course that means you must learn to sign.

Parenting tip three:  When you have learned some signs have Signing Time every day at a specified time.  Meal time is a good time. So is making it part of a night time ritual. 

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Share it even if it doesn’t speak to you, it will speak to some. Thank you.

Katherine

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EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE FOR DUMMIES

If you are in the business world, you have heard about the need to improve your  emotional intelligence.   Here’s the dummy’s way to do that.

EQ instagrom intro to efti

Go here for to get started with some Easy Emotional Fitness Exercises  Then go to the EFTI store for Free Poster Coaches including exercises designed for dummies but also for those with lots of smarts.

Could not resist this quick post when I saw this DAILY PROMPT(Your Thing) for Dummies – Take a complicated subject you know more about than most people, and explain it to a friend who knows nothing about it at all.

Emotional Fitness Training improves your emotional intelligence the way  power walking improves you physically.  Your power to boss negative feelings grow the more you practice.

THANK YOU FOR ALL YOU DO

Keep working to stay strong, I work hard to do the same . As noted above,  I am not perfect, no one is and this week;s post will be all about praising imperfection.

Remember’s sharing is caring and the easiest way to practice kindness is to share this post if you found it helpful.  Thank you.

Katherine

YOUR HELP WANTED THINKING THROUGH EFTI’S NEW YEAR

“Scarcity creates value. It wins the attention and admiration of others.”  so says a big business coaching blog. Not true for all things, kindness for example.

Go Beyond Random Kindness

Moreover, I do not think it applies to blogging. The most popular bloggers blog every day, despite being told that is not necessary.

So here is what I am thinking of in terms of trying to get meet my goal for the New Year. The goal? To get at least five new EFTI in print books published.

Reality demands I cut back on the time it takes to blog. I am thinking of doing a major post every Monday. Shorter mainly follow up posts Monday through Friday.  These might just be a different Poster Coach  with ad added tip framed as  thinking or remembering what matters. No separate Parenting Tips.

These posts would  end as follows:

Practice Deliberate Kindness

One way I  practice kindness  is by sharing free downloads of  most of EFTI’s  poster coaches  at the EFTIstore. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some are quotes about what matters, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

You  practice Internet kindness every time you like, comment or share someones’ post. I feel good when I support my internet friends. Even small kinesses strengthen you.

Stay strong

I work at it every day and still have moments of weakness and regret, but manage most of the time to enjoy what can be enjoyed, act wisely, forgive myself and others, and practice kindness.

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THREE TIPS FOR HOLDING ON TO THE GOOD

“At my age, I’ve seen it all, heard it all, done it all, but mostly forgotten it all.”  Practice this EFT exercise, forget the bad and Hold On to the Good.

Good memories

Because our brains are survival based, bad memories are more firmly embedded than good ones.  What makes it worse is the bad ones often come on like 911 calls.  What to do? Work harder to hold on to the good ones.

Tip one: create and keep a  memory book.   Life is often a struggle.  A Memory Book honors our struggles, reminds us we are strong and helps us keep only the good ones.  A Memory Book is more than a photograph album. A Memory Book is a way of making sense of life and how it changes.

Some Memory Books are one page long, others hold only a few pages stapled together, others cover a life time and get housed in expensive leather covers.

Size is not as important as what the book holds. One page holding the right memories is often worth more than a hundred pages of pictures that carry little meaning. A picture is worth a 1000 words but pictures plus some words are priceless.

Tip two:  Create a good memory brain file.  This is done by creating some sanctuaries, first in your home, and then in your mind. 

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Tip three: Use the above tips to regularly  practice EFT’s Hold On to the Good Exercise.  Here are the steps to that exercise:

  1. Go to a physical sanctuary.  Some think of their bed as a sanctuary and do this exercise at night before falling asleep.
  2. Consciously relax by spending a minute tensing and then releasing all your body. Start at your head and work down section by section.
  3. Take a Calming Breath.
  4. Go to your Imaginary Sanctuary.  For some this is best done by picturing it in your mind; others do better describing themselves there.
  5. Review the day.  Say good-by to the bad things, embrace all that was good.
  6. Take a Calming Breath when you are ready to end the exercise.

PARENTING TIPS

Parenting tip one:  Parents start a child’s Memory Book, but as soon as  possible, the child should be part of creating hers or his Memory Books, These will often be a page or a smaller book.  When collected these pages and smaller books become larger Memory Books  or become part of a Family’s Memory Book.

Memory Books can be made for many things–baby’s first day home, first steps, special people, special days, ordinary days, marriages, graduations, vacations, all good things.

Parenting tip two:  Parents must keep  Memory Books safe. Some teens have thrown away a Memory Book and in time, deeply regretted doing so.

 Parenting tip three: Include bad times once they have passed for bad tiems teach lessons.  The lessons?  Bad times that have passed teach the idea that life is full of change, good times come and then go; the same with bad times.  Second lesson: how strong we are.   Review the Honor Your Strength Exercise.

TODAY’ CRITICAL THINKING PROMPT   Emotional Fitness is about thinking critically or about what matters.  Daily prompts of any sort, push you to think more clearly, so you act with wisdom as well as passion.

Here is s today’s from WordPress – New Skin: If you could spend the next year as someone radically different from the current “you” — a member of a different species, someone from a different gender or generation, etc. — who would you choose to be?

As I suspect most of us do not want to be a different me.   I might like a few things different, but I am happy in my skin. Took a long time to feel that way, true for most of us.  Here are a few reasons why I did not love me as a teen:  I was learning disabled, math blind and not able to spell or punctuate properly.  At the same time I was a bit of a geek when that was not so hot.  I wore glasses,  had buck teeth, and was far too skinny  when it was better to be a bit voluptuous.  I was sure I would never find someone to love me or even ask me out on a date.  I would have made a deal with the devil to be popular; fortunately, he didn’t offer to work with me.

Emotional Fitness thoughts: about wanting to be someone else: Wanting to be someone else  means you are not happy with you.  An expected life stage for school aged children who begin to realize how much they do not control or know.  Then come the teen years, when you begin to see yourself as you are and measure yourself against society’s standards.  Particularly, hard many of today’s  teens as the media standards are too high for most of us to reach.

What to do?   STAR in your life. Get real, do not let the media hypnotize you into thinking who you are is less than good.   How? by remembering what matters. What matters?  Not how you look, how much money you have,how bright you are,  the job you have, how happy you are.  What matters is practicing kindness and that option is open to all.

PRACTICING  KINDNESS

I practice it by sharing free downloads of  many EFTI’s  poster coaches  at the EFTIstore. A poster coach is like a face-to-face coach; all serve as practice reminders, some teach you the exercises needed to stay strong.

You  practice Internet kindness every time you like, comment or share someones’ post. I feel good when I support my internet friends. Even small kinesses strengthen you.

Stay strong, I work at it every day and still have moments of weakness and regret, but manage most of the time to enjoy what can be enjoyed, act wisely, forgive myself and others, and practice kindness.

Katherine

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